Managing Your Move to or in Wichita Falls: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the mature equivalent of middle school—everyone is very gungho about the prospect, but it is only the ones with sensible expectations who wind up having a good time. Yes, it is a new home, a new start, and the opportunity of a awesome new life--but once that last empty moving van heads down the road and you are standing there amongst your boxes, you have still got to do the hard work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to starting that new life on a positive note--and that means not only acknowledging the fact that a new house won't magically suck up the twenty pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally exhausting even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should appropriate the time and space to accept that. One of the stragne things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new home in another state takes away the constant requests to go visit their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be easier to welcome a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But let’s get back to the practicalities. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Wichita Falls--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you'll pay. Expectation—I'll get rid of old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you realize you do. Regardless if you handle your own packing or appoint a professional moving company, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those weird words you do not hear very often, at least in a good connotation. In actuality, letting go of the old baggage is one of the smartest ways that you can allow your new home to grant your expectations of grandeur. There are hundreds of guidelines and tips to help you figure out the best approaches to go through your old items, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit off-the-wall--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its simplest level, purging is simply picking through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and forming three piles: hang on to, get rid of, donate. Or you may have four piles if you've got some nice items that you don't want anymore, and consign those things. The hardest thing about purging is keeping up the neutrality you need to be cutthroat about getting rid of items. If you stored all those pre-school drawings, how can you throw them away and be a good parent? Here is how—appoint a friend to assist you to go through things and talk you through why you are holding onto things that are really better out of the house. Having a friend ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in perspective and you'll have a less difficult time growing the get-rid-of pile if you have got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your partner is the one with the accumulator habits, here is a strategy for assisting a reluctant significant other say good-bye their treasures. Think small, and begin with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and gradually build to more important possessions, like collections (for example, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we discuss managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.