Managing Your Move to or in Wichita Falls: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the grown-up equal of middle school—everyone is very gungho about the prospect, but it is only the ones with reasonable expectations who wind up having a smooth move. Yes, it is a new home, a new start, and the opportunity of a awesome new life--but once that last empty moving van heads down the road and you are standing there amongst your boxes, you have still got to do the hard work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is essential to starting that new life on a positive note--and that means not only acknowledging the fact that a new house won't magically suck up the twenty pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally draining even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should allow the time and space to accept that. One of the stragne things about a local move--new abode, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new home in another state removes the constant requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be easier to adopt a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But let’s get back to the practicalities. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Wichita Falls--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge must be packed, and the more you pack, the more you'll pay. Expectation—I'll get rid of old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you realize you do. Regardless if you take care of your own packing or employ a professional moving company, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to pack and move. Purge Purging is one of those weird words you do not hear very often, at least in a positive implication. In actuality, getting rid of the old baggage is one of the wisest ways that you can allow your new home to meet your expectations of greatness. There are hundreds of rules and tips to help you figure out the best methods to get rid of your old stuff, from down-to-earth--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is basically going through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and forming three piles: hang on to, get rid of, donate. Or you may have four piles if you've got some nice items that you don't want anymore, and consign those things. A difficult thing about purging is retaining the neutrality you need to be cutthroat about getting rid of items. If you stored all those pre-school drawings, how can you throw them away and be a good parent? Here is how—appoint a friend to assist you to go through things and talk you through why you're holding onto things that are really better to be gotten rid of. Having a friend ask you out loud why you want to keep the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in perspective and you'll have a less difficult time growing the toss pile if you have got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your partner is the one with the pack rat habits, here is a strategy for assisting a reluctant significant other say good-bye their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and gradually make your way to more important possessions, like collections (for example, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we discuss managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.